Why 'Being' Matters More Than 'Doing'
Ever watched a child build a sandcastle? There's a certain magic to it. No plans, no measuring, just a belief that whatever they create will be wonderful. They’re all in – fully present, heart and soul wrapped in the joy of building. That’s the magic of the Be-Do-Have way of life, something we adults often forget as we get caught up in our 'must-dos' and 'should-haves.'
Have you ever found yourself tangled up in 'If only' thoughts? "If only I had that degree, then I’d be successful." "If only I got that approval, I'd finally feel enough."
I’ve been there. For so long, I thought I needed to have something first to be someone important. But here’s the thing – we’re human beings, not human 'havings' or 'doings,' right?
I wanted to stand out, not just as another professional in a sea of credentials but as someone who makes a real difference. The problem? I was convinced I needed more qualifications, more praise, and more of everything before I could really be that person. I kept waiting for the day I'd 'arrive.'
Then, a thought hit me: what if we flipped this whole script? Instead of "I need to have this to be that," what if we started with who we choose to be, let that guide what we do, and watch the having follow naturally?
It’s a bit scary, isn’t it? Rooting ourselves in being before anything else. But when I took that leap, everything changed. I started showing up in my work with passion and integrity, not for applause but because it felt right. And then, guess what? Life responded. I started to have what I needed – and more – without chasing it.
So, here’s the lesson I want to share with you: The things you have – the degrees, titles, nods of approval – they’re nice, but they don’t define you. Who you are, at your core, does. When you lead from that place of authenticity, everything else falls into place.
Why chase shadows when you can shine your own light?
Isn’t it freeing? To realize your worth comes from within, not from collecting credentials? It’s about collecting those moments of true effort, growth, and being fully you.
So, I’ll ask you: Who do you choose to be today? Someone always seeking outside validation, or someone ready to embrace their own path? Your answer might just change the direction of your life.
Let’s walk this path together.
If any of this resonates – if my story feels like a reflection of your own doubts and dreams – maybe we’re kindred spirits, walking parallel journeys.
My coaching isn't about handing you quick fixes. It’s about guiding you to discover your own truths. It’s an invitation to:
BE: Embrace the real you with all your brilliance and beautiful imperfections.
DO: Act from that genuine place, not from societal pressures.
HAVE: Enjoy the success and fulfillment that naturally come when your being and doing are aligned.
If this stirs something within you, or if you're just curious to explore this path further, I’m here. Let’s create a journey shaped by who you choose to be, not what the world expects.
Here’s to an authentic tomorrow!
“You have to BE, before you can DO and do before you can HAVE.”
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